Human beings are social creatures.
Alone time is good. Too much alone time can be dangerous. It’s important to connect with others and build relationships to create a healthy and happy life.
Life gets easier when you CREATE a support system. These can be people from school, a community club, sports team, family, friends, work etc. Life gets better when you surround yourself with people who make you feel good. That sense of connectedness can make all the difference. Connectedness and happiness are closely related.
When it feels like everything is falling apart, sometimes the quickest and easiest approach is to isolate and self medicate. That is the WORST thing you can do. Find the courage to reach out to others.
I know I’ve developed close bonds during different, unimaginable chapters in my life that I could’ve NEVER predicted. I assumed that my high school friends would be my only lifelong friends and I was completely fine with that. Until college happened, then ski team, then my study abroad experience, then my first job out of college, then AmeriCorps, then Toastmasters, then my next job, and other unforeseen events. My relationships with others are sacred and I am sure to put effort into all of my relationships. I strongly believed that they saved my life. Funny enough, I never even looked for a romantic relationship. I never felt that void because of the incredible people in my life. Then, I unexpectedly met someone. I love my life partner and I now couldn’t imagine my life without him.
The point is, that no matter what is happening in life, spending time with others is the best thing you can do. That’s the ultimate medication. The times when you want to isolate the most are the times when you need to launch yourself into a social situation. From experience, I know this to be true.